Sunday Sermon: Learning How to Look the Devil in the Eye and Say NO in an Ashhsastore Top, Rayar Chain Denim Jeans, and Christian Louboutin Pumps

Being nice is a double edged sword. The positives? You presume people will like you, find you friendly, and pleasant to be around. It also feels good to be nice! The negatives are that you feel bad not giving people what they want and can sometimes be taken advantage of. Niceness sometimes is a weakness that people with ulterior motives can misuse. Because you want to be nice, you might let things fly you don’t want to. If you want to live your best life, however, you need to learn to look the devil in the eye and say no.

I am not a confrontational person. I would rather sidestep drama than dive in head on. But the devil (and by the devil, I mean people who bring drama, negativity, or discord), sometimes won’t accept that. Sometimes people force you into confrontation. And when that moment comes, grow a pair and just meet situations head on. Not everything or everyone is going to ‘just go away.‘ They cling to you sometimes because you have great energy or you have something they want. But it’s up to you to say look them in the eye and say, “Not today, Satan!” The great news is that generally once you take a stand, they scurry away.

I recently dealt with a situation with someone I honestly didn’t want to have anything to do with anymore. We worked together on a project and I left feeling disrespected, unheard, and used. Still, this person texted me every day as if everything was fine; I tried to ignore them. Finally, they asked for a confrontation. And they got it. Did I want to tell them how much I disliked our disastrous encounter? Did I feel good afterwards? No. But now they’re gone, hallelujah.

I think it’s especially hard for women in business. We are nurturers. We care about people’s feelings. We want peace. But if you are thrown into a den of dogs, get out your knife and fight (I’ve been watching Game of Thrones). But really. Either you win or you die. And I’m not ready to die.
Love & Light,

*The other day, I wore a top from AshhaStore, Rayar Jeans, and Christian Louboutin pumps. Please excuse my foot meat.