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No More Fear in 2018: Reflections on Diddy’s New Year’s Eve Party 2017 in Muehleder and Christian Louboutin

“Closed mouths don’t get fed.”

I’ve been a bit down the past few days. As many of you know, I was graciously invited to Diddy’s New Year’s Eve party in Miami. I spoke to a shook hands with DJ Khaled, Fabolous, Emily B, Lala Anthony, and so many more. But you’d never know it because…I didn’t take one picture (even though there was a sign outside that said no pictures, EVERYONE was in there taking pix).

I even bumped into Diddy about…5 times. I look up to his business achievements and think he embodies the American dream. Did I tell him that? No. I just stood there like a weirdo or Snapchatted him as he stood inches away from me. I left the party without one Snapshot memorializing my night.

I was down on myself afterward, but I couldn’t put my finger on WHY. Was it the after effects of the Ciroc? No, it was the disappointment I felt because I had an opportunity, but instead of take it and run, I stood back in fear.

I could beat myself up about it, but I’ve decided that starting TODAY, I will no longer live in fear. 2018 will be the year of going for it. Seeing an opportunity, putting my inhibitions to the side, and stepping forward into my destiny.

I’m not sure WHY I didn’t say hello or ask one of the many stars I admire to stop for a moment to take a picture. Fear of rejection, perhaps. Fear of looking like or being called a groupie (as I was earlier this year; you can’t let the fear of judgement stop you either). Honestly, who cares? If I had at least tried, and failed, it would have been better than not trying at all.

The old Claire, who used to crash those types of parties, would have lapped up every moment. But for some reason New Claire second guesses herself and wants to blend in vs. stand out as one of the few bloggers turned entrepreneurs who have the privilege of being invited to such an exclusive shindig.

NO MORE! No more fear. I needed to attend that party and emerge with NOTHING to realize I’m definitely not about that life for 2018.

2018 is about going for my wildest dreams and achieving them. You can’t do that by being scared and quiet. Be bold, be loud, and make your presence felt.
Say it with me: No more fear. I will not lose.

I encourage you all to live life fearlessly. Get out of your head. Stop thinking of reasons why you shouldn’t do something. And just do it.
Love & Light,

*On day 2 in Miami, I wore a Muehleder sweater dress and Christian Louboutin pumps.

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  • ♕ kAMiLAH bAdiANE

    Oh my, I would never imagine you as someone being afraid (or shy/weird) but as you mentioned, that NEEDED to happen. You will bump into him again and I’m sure you all will have plenty to discuss. Peace and prosperity, K.B.

    • Claire Sulmers

      Lots of love!

  • Marci

    Needed to hear this! I’ve been putting off starting to take steps toward accomplishing some long desired goals. You’ve inspired me to try to move beyond my fear of failure in 2018

  • Dyandra Raye

    Claire thanks for writing this! I have been following you for quite some time and I enjoy how open and honest your are. It is so hard to put yourself out there and better yet follow your passions. I am sharing a post about following my calling and doing what I want on my site dyandraraye.com. I just relaunched in November and I am serious about walking in my purpose! Thanks for your continued influence!!!

  • circafashion

    that’s right Claire, love you for writing this. I am sure you will have an opportunity to meet up with him again.

  • Leslie

    I do the same thing when in circles outside my comfort zone. I falsely believe I have nothing to talk about – NO MORE!